Help us help others, because our resources are insufficient!

Who do we help?

P. is a 30-year-old autistic trans man fighting to transition, struggling with the effects of years of trauma and ADHD, and slowly emerging from a crisis of homelessness.

Who helps?

TePeWu (Mutual Aid Society) – an intersectional and freedom-oriented community based in Gliwice. Our allies are Permanent Aid Group, which organizes financial support for queer people, and Tęczówka Association from Katowice, which helps with transitioning, among other things.

How do we help?

Based on a care contract signed in July 2025, we provide P. with safe housing and assistance (4-6 people on a rotating basis) in everyday matters and in solving outstanding formal, health, financial, and practical problems. The goal is to help P. gain independent control over his future life.

What do we need?

• Small but regular donations to the fundraiser organized by GNP ➤➤➤
• Help to spread the word and to share this request for help.
• Cooperation (remote or in person) in assisting P. and solving more difficult problems.

How it all started…

In early July 2025, the TePeWu community received a signal that one of our members needed help getting out of a hostile environment and finding a safe place to live.

As a result of the intervention, we managed to move him to temporary accommodation, after which we took steps to help him stabilize his life situation.

It turned out that P. (a 30-year-old trans man) was in a deep crisis in many respects:

• as a trans person who had been striving to transition for years;
• as a neurospicy person, diagnosed only with ADHD, but also being on the autism spectrum;
• as a person who had been regularly traumatized since adolescence, both for the above reasons and due to the loss of loved ones, without the possibility of working through the trauma in a safe manner;
• and finally, as a person who, for all these reasons, did not have enough energy to maintain control over his own life and was therefore de facto enslaved.

As an intersectional and freedom-loving community, we considered it obvious that P. deserved all possible help from us so that he could free himself from the limitations described above and become the person he wanted to be.

Therefore, in mid-July, we entered into an agreement with him, providing him with safe and unconditional shelter in Gliwice, as well as our personal assistance in regaining his agency.

Today, in mid-September 2025, P. is slowly beginning to stabilize. Despite several health crises, we have managed to take the first steps:

• Basic medical and dental examinations;
• Finding a non-transphobic Mental Health Center;
• Starting training in independent living and caring for the living space;
• Starting social skills training;

We still have many challenges awaiting us, but we are optimistic.

On a daily basis, 4-6 people take turns providing help and assistance to P. In addition, the community covers the financial costs (current expenses and 1/3 of the housing costs) as much as possible.

But our resources are not enough. Therefore, in cooperation with the Permanent Assistance Group, we have launched a fundraiser, primarily for the costs of long-term apartment rental.

We don’t just want to help P.; we also want to use this campaign as a basis to develop a new model of community mutual aid and care for people from increasingly marginalized and stigmatized groups: queer, neuroatypical, disabled, elderly, homeless, and all those rejected by capitalist modernity.

If you want to help us (and P.), start with as little as PLN 30 or 50 per month. Spread the word about our activities to others in your network and encourage them to support our work. Contact us if you want and are able to devote some time—remotely or in person—to support our activities.

In a world of growing crisis, only solidarity and mutual aid can save us. Join the network of care and support!

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Updates

September 11th: baby steps in the right direction.

September 9th: trans-friendly medical facilities found!

September 5th: first moments of stabilisation.

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2025-09-19 10:00:07

September 11th: baby steps in the right direction.

Previously…

• On Sunday, the community invites P. to a joint dinner to celebrate his recent birthday. There will be gifts and chats, and maybe even cake… We believe that a piece of our time is the most valuable “thing” we can give.
• The community is still improving: we are creating and implementing communication protocols that respect boundaries, but also more mundane ones – taking care of the space P. lives in. As soon as we launch the medical procedures, we will be able to move forward.
• The next milestone is a visit to a trans support group run by Tęczówka Association in Katowice.
• On a practical note: we bought (50% from a fundraiser, 50% from P.’s resources) a 6-month ZTM network ticket, so that commuting within the metropolitan area will not be a problem for him – e.g., for therapy or tests.

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How it all started… – Towarzystwo Pomocy Wzajemnej

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Assumptions

• P. and the rest of the community enter into a care contract for a period of one year, one month, and one day from mid-July.
• The purpose of the contract is to help P. leave survival mode and stabilize his life in a safe community environment.
• We will jointly determine any further actions in the last two months of the contract.
• All processes will be conducted on the basis of subsidiarity (supporting P. in his efforts) and anarchist participation.
• In emergency and unforeseen situations, we will ensure open communication and collective decision-making.
• We maintain mutual confidentiality and reasonable trust. We allow ourselves room for mistakes and misunderstandings, but we do not accept abuse. We do not hide problems, but discuss and resolve them immediately.
• The contract expires after the agreed period, by mutual agreement at any time, or by decision of one of the parties, after notification of the other party, collective attempt at renegotiation, and at least one month to find another solution.

Community obligations towards P.

Satisfy the need for safe shelter by:

• finding a studio/small apartment for rent in Gliwice;
• concluding a lease agreement;
• financing half of the rental costs during the term of the contract;
• organizing, financing, and carrying out the move from Poznań;
• in the event of loss of housing, providing a short-term place to live until the next accommodation is found.

Meet the need to restore and maintain health by:

• helping to obtain health insurance;
• until it is obtained, helping to obtain free medical care;
• if necessary and within the means of the Community, covering the costs of necessary paid medical assistance;
• helping to plan and implement daily work to improve and maintain health.
• assisting, if necessary, with doctor’s appointments and other contacts with healthcare providers.

Meet the need for security in the face of the state-capitalist system by

• helping to clear any formal and financial arrears;
• helping to activate available tools: trusted profile and electronic access to public services;
• helping to obtain the maximum benefits from the state and local government: pensions, insurance, personal assistance, other support.

Satisfy the need for a regulated lifestyle by

• helping with daily functioning, planning household activities, shopping, and other routine activities;
• assistance in obtaining personal assistant services (financed by local government).
• having a person who will explain the mechanisms of life in autistic-neurodiverse (technical) language and provide tools for mentally organizing the world;
• assistance, upon request, in learning to perform basic daily activities independently.

Satisfy the need for social contact by

• providing psychological support in difficult moments;
• creating a safe space for participation in TePeWu activities;
• participating together in social and cultural events in the city;
• providing support in emergency and unforeseen situations – depending on needs and possibilities.

P.’s obligations to the community

• To the best of their ability, help to achieve the objectives of the contract (and in any case not sabotage it).
• Ensure open communication, in particular:
• communicate all their fears or reservations so that the community can respond constructively and quickly;
• Identify the person they trust the most, with whom they can share difficult topics (and who will be responsible for communicating them safely to the rest of the community).
• Call for help whenever and immediately when they need it.
• clearly communicate changes in their needs and situation (e.g., “I need to isolate myself for three days” or “I need someone to stay with me all day tomorrow”) so that the community can take them into account.
• not be discouraged by misunderstandings and missteps on the part of those involved.

Annex dated September 4, 2025

On September 4, 2025, a meeting of the contract group was held, at which an annex to the contract was agreed upon.

Content of the annex

In order for the community to continue to fulfill the contract, changes in the behavior of both P. and the rest of the community are necessary.

P. agrees to:

• Accept mental health care from trusted and trans-friendly professionals. Options include: psychologist, therapist, psychiatrist, day psychiatric ward.
• Take care of the room provided. Once a week, with the support of a community member, thoroughly clean the room and bathroom, with a focus on acquiring the skills to maintain order independently.

In addition, all involved parties will work together on further changes.

• Find a friendly primary care physician, conduct comprehensive tests, and work on regaining full physical health.
• Disclosure of all medical recommendations. If P. disagrees with them, discuss the medical records together and seek consensus.
• Avoiding handling community and contract matters through private channels. There are and can be created appropriate group rooms for this purpose. If there is something that P. is not ready to write publicly, there are two trusted individuals (Just and Philbob) who can do so on his behalf. Private communication has no effect on the fulfillment of the contract.
• Practicing respectful communication that maintains boundaries. If these rules are violated, the person should clearly and assertively state what violation they see and may interrupt the conversation until the next day or another resolution of the situation (whichever comes first).

We are giving ourselves until October 4, 2025, to assess whether there have been observable improvements in the above areas. We can then reassess the situation and formulate another annex.

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Updates

September 11th

September 9th

September 5th

Towarzystwo Pomocy Wzajemnej

2025-09-19 10:00:07

September 11th: baby steps in the right direction.

Previously…

• On Sunday, the community invites P. to a joint dinner to celebrate his recent birthday. There will be gifts and chats, and maybe even cake… We believe that a piece of our time is the most valuable “thing” we can give.
• The community is still improving: we are creating and implementing communication protocols that respect boundaries, but also more mundane ones – taking care of the space P. lives in. As soon as we launch the medical procedures, we will be able to move forward.
• The next milestone is a visit to a trans support group run by Tęczówka Association in Katowice.
• On a practical note: we bought (50% from a fundraiser, 50% from P.’s resources) a 6-month ZTM network ticket, so that commuting within the metropolitan area will not be a problem for him – e.g., for therapy or tests.

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How it all started… – Towarzystwo Pomocy Wzajemnej

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W poprzednich odcinkach…

• W niedzielę społeczność zaprasza P. na wspólny obiad z okazji niedawnych jego urodzin. Będą prezenty i pogaduchy, i być może nawet ciasto…
  Uważamy, że kawałek naszego czasu życia to najbardziej wartościowa „rzecz” do dania.
• Trwa docieranie się społeczności: tworzymy i wdrażamy protokoły komunikacji z poszanowaniem granic, ale też bardziej prozaiczne – dbania o zamieszkiwaną przestrzeń. Jak tylko uruchomimy zaplecze medyczne, będzie można iść dalej.
• Następny milestone to grupa wsparcia prowadzona przez katowicką Tęczówkę.
• Z rzeczy praktycznych: kupiliśmy (50% ze zrzutki, 50% z zasobów P.) sieciowy bilet ZTM na 6 miesięcy, dzięki czemu dojazdy w ramach metropolii nie będą dla niego problemem – np. na terapię czy badania.

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